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Shabbat Table Topics – Parashat Chayyei Sarah

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What to Look for in a Spouse

Much of Parashat Chayyei Sarah revolves around finding A Wife for Yitzchak. 

• What were Avraham's main criteria when choosing Yitzchak's spouse?  Was he looking for someone who was likely to share his beliefs, or someone who was of noble character?  How would you weigh the relative values of each? Is it more important that a spouse's religious observance and beliefs match your own, or that s/he have good character traits?
• If everyone was idolatrous at the time, why did Avraham have his servant travel all the way to Charan, rather than look for a wife closer to home? Was there something inherently troubling about the Canaanites, or was Avraham simply fearful of the influence that local polytheistic in-laws might have on his son? 

Like Father, Like Son?

Often readers picture Avraham as an active trailblazer, and Yitzchak as but a passive shadow, whose main contribution is being a link in the chain. Is this an accurate depiction?

• What do you think are the strengths and weaknesses of each character?
• What are the main points of similarity and difference between the two?
• Perhaps surprisingly, the stories of father and son are actually quite similar, and exploring the parallels helps a reader appreciate both the overlap between and the uniqueness of each leader.  See Avraham and Yitzchak for more.

Avraham and Keturah

Bereshit 25 speaks of Avraham's marriage to Keturah and the sending away of the sons of his concubines.  Why are these stories shared with the reader?

• Who is Keturah?  Many identify her with Hagar, and suggest that after Sarah's death he remarried her maidservant.  What would prompt such an identification? Can you think of other cases where an anonymous character is identifed with a more well known one? See Avraham's Many Wives and Identifications

A Portrait of Rivka

Bring several artistic renditions of Rivka at the Well to your Shabbat table.  Where does each artist stay true to the text and where do they veer from it?  What ambiguities or unknowns in the original narrative might they be drawing upon? 

• With which depiction of Rivka do you most identify; why?
• How old do you think she was at the encounter? 
• Do you think of Rivka as a kindly young maiden, or as a scheming, manipulative adult?  How does her character evolve over the Bereshit narratives?