Eating "חִנָּם" – Ramban asserts that Egyptian taskmasters would have the Israelites catch fish for them in the Nile and would allow the slaves to take fish once in a while. R. Yosef Bekhor Shor argues that when the Nile would overflow, fish would remain on the soil and be left ownerless for anyone to take. For these commentators, חנם literally means "free of charge."
Fish or meat – R. Bahya writes that their request for these foods further reflected their gluttonous nature.1 The request was not exclusively for meat.
Request of Shemot 16 – According to these commentators, it is likely the request in Shemot 16 was not sinful at all. There, the people were fighting for survival in that they had absolutely nothing to eat as the Manna had not been introduced. The people in Bemidbar 11 had the Manna already and yet were still desiring more. Their request was not one of survival but of gluttony.2
בֹּכֶה לְמִשְׁפְּחֹתָיו – R. Avraham Ibn Ezra understands this phrase as expressing as comparing the people's response to those who cry over their dead.3
Moshe's Response – R. Yosef Bekhor Shor posits that the raining quail of Shemot 16 is actually the same quail of Bemidbar 11. The Torah, once informing the reader of other raining sustenance (namely, the Manna), also informed about other foods that at other points fell from the sky. Thus, Moshe never would have known of such a possible solution to this issue.
Severity of Punishment
According to this approach, it is still tough to understand why gluttony itself may have caused such an extreme punishment.
Rabbi Joseph B. Soloveitchik writes that gluttony represents a pagan way of life, which stands in contradistinction to a Torah way of life.4
Theological Issues
The Israelites' request for meat truly represented a much more severe theological issue they had with Hashem and his Torah.
Burden of Commandments
Desire for food and meat are actually masks for a want of freedom from restrictive commandments.
Eating בחנם – These commentators reason that חִנָּם truly means "free from commandments".5 In Egypt, before the giving of the Torah, the Israelites were not bound by any eating restrictions and could indulge in any food they pleased.
Fish or meat – Shemuel (Yoma 75a) asserts that הַדָּגָה is actually a reference to illicit sexual relations, which were not yet prohibited to the Israelites in Egypt.6 Longing for "fish" is another expression of ridding of restrictive commandments.
Request of Shemot 16 – Rashi argues that the request for meat in Shemot was also a negative, gluttonous request.7 Nonetheless, such a request was not as severe as the one in Bemidbar 11.
בֹּכֶה לְמִשְׁפְּחֹתָיו – The Sifre understands that the crying by families was really a crying about families. Once the prohibitions of illicit sexual relations were introduced, families were forced to split up due to prohibited relationships.
Moshe's Response – According to these commentators, Moshe's extreme response may be more understandable as this request is questioning the validity of Hashem's commandments.
הִתְאַוּוּ תַּאֲוָה – According to these commentators, the request itself for meat was problematic in that it really was a mask for a greater desire to rid themselves of Hashem's commandments,
Testing Hashem's Abilities
Complaints about food and meat challenge Hashem's ability to provide food for the hungry nation. Such a lack of belief could be tantamount to idolatry and warrant an extreme punishment.
Request of Shemot 16 – In Shemot 16, though a similar request was made, it is unlikely that request was sinful. There, the request as directed at Moshe and Aharon. The nation was, perhaps, seeking an answer to their issues. In Bemidbar 11, the request was directed at no one. The people, perhaps, were not looking for a real answer to the request. They merely expressed their lack of faith in Hashem's providence and did not care to verify whether He could provide. Alternatively, Abrabanel argues Shemot 16 was also a negative request. However, the nation had not known of the Manna yet and were thus never introduced to messages of the Manna, namely a full belief in Hashem's ability to provide. By Bemidbar 11, the nation was expected to have internalized those messages already. The failure to do so resulted in the punishment
ֵEating "חִנָּם" – Ramban asserts that Egyptian taskmasters would have the Israelites catch fish for them in the Nile and would allow the slaves to take fish once in a while. R. Yosef Bekhor Shor argues that when the Nile would overflow, fish would remain on the soil and be left ownerless for anyone to take. For these commentators, חנם literally means "free of charge."
Fish or meat – The request was not limited to meat. The people also questioned Hashem's ability to provide fish as well.
Tehillim 78 – Tehillim 78 retells the story of the nation asking for food in the desert. Verse 18 supports this approach by saying וַיְנַסּוּ־אֵ֥ל בִּלְבָבָ֑ם לִֽשְׁאׇל־אֹ֥כֶל לְנַפְשָֽׁם.
Moshe's Response – According to these commentators, Moshe's extreme response may be more understandable as this request is questioning the abilities of Hashem.
הִתְאַוּוּ תַּאֲוָה – The request itself for meat perhaps was not problematic. R' Zedekiah Ben R. Avraham argues that had the nation made its request in a way that didn't imply testing Hashem, the request may have been granted.
Denying Significance of the Exodus
According to Rashbam, Hashem punished the Israelites for their lack of appreciation for their freedom from Egypt, perhaps a violation of one of the most fundamental beliefs in Judaism.8
Request of Shemot 16 – Shemot 16 also records the people expressing regret at leaving Egypt. Therefore it is unclear as to why a similar punishment was not given there. Perhaps, their request for מותנו in Egypt is much less severe than a request for the foods they ate as slaves, expressing a longing for life in Egypt itself.
Fish or meat/Eating חִנָּם – For Rashbam, Both of these points reflect the nation's nostalgia towards Egypt.
Consistency with the Text – In Bemidbar 11:20, Hashem explicitly references the return to Egypt as the catalyst for His extreme punishment. "יַעַן כִּי מְאַסְתֶּם אֶת י"י אֲשֶׁר בְּקִרְבְּכֶם וַתִּבְכּוּ לְפָנָיו לֵאמֹר לָמָּה זֶּה יָצָאנוּ מִמִּצְרָיִם".
Moshe's Response – Moshe too may have understood the severity of this request. The nation was underlying the basis of its relationship with Hashem.
הִתְאַוּוּ תַּאֲוָה – Rashbam writes that had the nation asked for meat without regretting leaving Egypt, the result would not have been as bad as we seen it was.
Degradation of the Manna
The Manna represented the ability to depend on Hashem for sustenance. An undermining of such a concept through lack of appreciation for and degradation of the Manna warranted a severe punishment from Hashem.
Fish or meat/Eating חִנָּם – R. Bahya writes that הַדָּגָה was a disgusting type of fish. הַקִּשֻּׁאִים and הָאֲבַטִּחִים were examples of bad fruits. Because of how lowly these foods were, they were available to the Israelite slaves for free in Egypt. Expressing desire for such foods was meant to degrade the Manna.
הִתְאַוּוּ תַּאֲוָה
On the one hand, perhaps the request for meat itself was not deplorable. Only the way the people went about the request did Hashem deem punishable
Alternatively, the request for meat may have itself been a degradation to the Manna
Juxtaposition of Passages – R. Bahya argues that this narrative, Miriam's story in Bemidbar 12, and the spies are all juxtaposed one to the other because they all revolve around the sin of speaking poorly about something else. The manna, Moshe, and the Land of Israel were all victims of this לשון הרע.
Manna interlude
Bemidbar 11:7-9 relates how the Israelites would gather and collect the Manna each day, seemingly interrupting the flow of the narrative. In fact, this interlude may present the contrast of how great the Manna really was and how the people viewed it.
Alternatively, RashbamBemidbar 11:8-10About R. Shemuel b. Meir argues the Torah describes the nation grinding and cooking the Manna in 11:8 to reflect poorly on how the nation treated the Manna, a food meant to be eaten pure without any human involvement.
Request of Shemot 16 –
The manna was not around for the nation to degrade. Therefore, their request was not something negative.
Moshe's Response:
Perhaps Moshe understood the complaint wasn't as much about the meat as it was about the Manna. Therefore, he was correct in arguing he could not possibly supply enough meat to satisfy the nation's request.
It is tough to understand why this event pushed Moshe over the edge. Interestingly, we see Moshe also get uncharacteristically angry when the nation violates the rules of Manna collection in Shemot 16:20. Perhaps, Moshe, too, understood the significance of Manna to the relationship between the Israelites and Hashem.