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<point><b>The test at the well</b> – This approach would likely suggest that, despite the silence in the text, after expressing how abominable he found the Canaanites, Avraham proceeded to tell his servant that he should instead find a wife of upright morals and character.  This led the servant to devise his water test. As such, Avraham's specification to avoid the Canaanites and the servant's character test are flip-sides of the same coin.  Malbim further points outs that the test was designed to identify a kindhearted woman from a poor family, who would presumably be more willing to emigrate to a foreign land. The servant assumed that the wealthy inhabitants of the city would send their servants to draw water, rather than their daughters, and thus never even thought of the possibility that a relative of Avraham would be the one to pass the test.</point> | <point><b>The test at the well</b> – This approach would likely suggest that, despite the silence in the text, after expressing how abominable he found the Canaanites, Avraham proceeded to tell his servant that he should instead find a wife of upright morals and character.  This led the servant to devise his water test. As such, Avraham's specification to avoid the Canaanites and the servant's character test are flip-sides of the same coin.  Malbim further points outs that the test was designed to identify a kindhearted woman from a poor family, who would presumably be more willing to emigrate to a foreign land. The servant assumed that the wealthy inhabitants of the city would send their servants to draw water, rather than their daughters, and thus never even thought of the possibility that a relative of Avraham would be the one to pass the test.</point> | ||
<point><b>The servant's uncertainty in <a href="Bereshit24-10" data-aht="source">verse 21</a></b> – According to Malbim, the uncertainty did not relate to Rivka's as-of-yet unknown lineage (which was unimportant to the servant) but rather to the concern that Rivka might still ask for remuneration for her efforts, thereby diminishing her good deed.<fn>Cf. Sforno.</fn> Alternatively, it is possible that the servant was concerned that the woman's family might not consent to the marriage.<fn>According to this, this uncertainty continued until the family agreed, and it is only in 24:52-56 ("וַה' הִצְלִיחַ דַּרְכִּי") that the servant is finally confident that his mission was successful.</fn></point> | <point><b>The servant's uncertainty in <a href="Bereshit24-10" data-aht="source">verse 21</a></b> – According to Malbim, the uncertainty did not relate to Rivka's as-of-yet unknown lineage (which was unimportant to the servant) but rather to the concern that Rivka might still ask for remuneration for her efforts, thereby diminishing her good deed.<fn>Cf. Sforno.</fn> Alternatively, it is possible that the servant was concerned that the woman's family might not consent to the marriage.<fn>According to this, this uncertainty continued until the family agreed, and it is only in 24:52-56 ("וַה' הִצְלִיחַ דַּרְכִּי") that the servant is finally confident that his mission was successful.</fn></point> | ||
− | <point><b>When was the jewelry given?</b> Ibn Kaspi and Malbim assert that, as it would appear from the | + | <point><b>When was the jewelry given?</b> Ibn Kaspi and Malbim assert that, as it would appear from the initial account, the servant gave Rivka the jewelry before finding out her lineage. They point out that this is consistent with their position that the woman's family background was irrelevant to the servant's mission.<fn>Ramban, who raises both possibilities as to whether it was a desideratum that the woman be from Avraham's family, interprets like R"Y Bekhor Shor and Radak above, that the servant merely prepared the jewelry before asking of Rivka's lineage, but did not give it until after.</fn> Malbim adds that the servant's asking for the identity of Rivka's family was merely the lead-up to his inquiry as to whether they could find lodging in her home.<fn>Cf. Radak and Shadal who maintain the exact opposite that asking about lodging was merely an excuse and a means for obtaining information about Rivka's family.</fn></point> |
<point><b>Variations in the servant's retelling</b> – Ibn Kaspi, and Malbim<fn>See also <multilink><a href="Akeidat22" data-aht="source">Akeidat Yitzchak</a><a href="Akeidat22" data-aht="source">Bereshit #22</a><a href="R. Yitzchak Arama (Akeidat Yitzchak)" data-aht="parshan">About R. Yitzchak Arama</a></multilink>, <multilink><a href="AbarbanelBereshit24" data-aht="source">Abarbanel</a><a href="AbarbanelBereshit24" data-aht="source">Bereshit 24</a><a href="R. Yitzchak Abarbanel" data-aht="parshan">About R. Yitzchak Abarbanel</a></multilink>, and <multilink><a href="RDZHoffmannBereshit24-47" data-aht="source">R. D"Z Hoffmann</a><a href="RDZHoffmannBereshit24-22" data-aht="source">Bereshit 24:22</a><a href="RDZHoffmannBereshit24-47" data-aht="source">Bereshit 24:47</a><a href="R. David Zvi Hoffmann" data-aht="parshan">About R. D"Z Hoffmann</a></multilink>.</fn> develop the possibility that the servant altered the truth in order to achieve his goals.<fn>The Hoil Moshe takes the reverse approach, suggesting that "מִמִּשְׁפַּחְתִּי וּמִבֵּית אָבִי" in the servant's account could refer to almost the entire city, as there were many other families in Avraham's hometown who were all Avraham's relatives.</fn> Thus, they contend that the servant only pretended that his marching orders were to find a woman from Avraham's family<fn>Ramban makes this point as well, but differs in his understanding of the giving of gifts.</fn> and that he gave Rivka the jewelry only after learning of her pedigree, all in order to flatter Rivka's family and ensure their approval of the marriage.<fn>See <multilink><a href="AbarbanelBereshit24" data-aht="source">Abarbanel</a><a href="AbarbanelBereshit24" data-aht="source">Bereshit 24</a><a href="R. Yitzchak Abarbanel" data-aht="parshan">About R. Yitzchak Abarbanel</a></multilink> for a full list and analysis of the discrepancies between the accounts of the narrator and servant.</fn></point> | <point><b>Variations in the servant's retelling</b> – Ibn Kaspi, and Malbim<fn>See also <multilink><a href="Akeidat22" data-aht="source">Akeidat Yitzchak</a><a href="Akeidat22" data-aht="source">Bereshit #22</a><a href="R. Yitzchak Arama (Akeidat Yitzchak)" data-aht="parshan">About R. Yitzchak Arama</a></multilink>, <multilink><a href="AbarbanelBereshit24" data-aht="source">Abarbanel</a><a href="AbarbanelBereshit24" data-aht="source">Bereshit 24</a><a href="R. Yitzchak Abarbanel" data-aht="parshan">About R. Yitzchak Abarbanel</a></multilink>, and <multilink><a href="RDZHoffmannBereshit24-47" data-aht="source">R. D"Z Hoffmann</a><a href="RDZHoffmannBereshit24-22" data-aht="source">Bereshit 24:22</a><a href="RDZHoffmannBereshit24-47" data-aht="source">Bereshit 24:47</a><a href="R. David Zvi Hoffmann" data-aht="parshan">About R. D"Z Hoffmann</a></multilink>.</fn> develop the possibility that the servant altered the truth in order to achieve his goals.<fn>The Hoil Moshe takes the reverse approach, suggesting that "מִמִּשְׁפַּחְתִּי וּמִבֵּית אָבִי" in the servant's account could refer to almost the entire city, as there were many other families in Avraham's hometown who were all Avraham's relatives.</fn> Thus, they contend that the servant only pretended that his marching orders were to find a woman from Avraham's family<fn>Ramban makes this point as well, but differs in his understanding of the giving of gifts.</fn> and that he gave Rivka the jewelry only after learning of her pedigree, all in order to flatter Rivka's family and ensure their approval of the marriage.<fn>See <multilink><a href="AbarbanelBereshit24" data-aht="source">Abarbanel</a><a href="AbarbanelBereshit24" data-aht="source">Bereshit 24</a><a href="R. Yitzchak Abarbanel" data-aht="parshan">About R. Yitzchak Abarbanel</a></multilink> for a full list and analysis of the discrepancies between the accounts of the narrator and servant.</fn></point> | ||
<point><b>Crux of the position</b> – This approach underscores the opening part of Avraham's admonition, the prohibition of taking a Canaanite wife, reading into it the importance of finding a spouse of upright character. It concludes, in light of the Torah's earlier curse of Canaan<fn>See Bereshit 9:25-27.</fn> and later revulsion from Canaanite behavior,<fn>See Vayikra 18.</fn> that Canaanite society was unique in the depth of its depravity.</point> | <point><b>Crux of the position</b> – This approach underscores the opening part of Avraham's admonition, the prohibition of taking a Canaanite wife, reading into it the importance of finding a spouse of upright character. It concludes, in light of the Torah's earlier curse of Canaan<fn>See Bereshit 9:25-27.</fn> and later revulsion from Canaanite behavior,<fn>See Vayikra 18.</fn> that Canaanite society was unique in the depth of its depravity.</point> |
Version as of 04:32, 19 June 2024
Wanted: A Wife for Yitzchak
Exegetical Approaches
Overview
Commentators offer a variety of interpretations as to why Avraham sends his servant all the way to Mesopotamia rather than finding a suitable wife for Yitzchak from among his neighbors. Josephus and a number of the early medieval exegetes propose that Avraham wants to find a wife from his family. In contrast, the Keli Yekar and R. Hirsch focus on the potential negative influences from marrying a local woman whose idolatrous family is always nearby. Finally, Jubilees and many others stress the moral bankruptcy of the Canaanite people and the desire that Yitzchak's wife, in contrast, be of noble character. These different perspectives have important ramifications for understanding Avraham's portrait of the ideal wife for Yitzchak, how the servant's plan of action fit with Avraham's instructions, and how contradictions between the original story and the servant's retelling can be resolved.
Preference for Avraham's Relatives
The most important criterion in the search for a wife for Yitzchak was that she be from Avraham's family.
- Family – Rashbam defines "מוֹלַדְתִּי" as family.6 Thus, Avraham explicitly instructed his servant to find a wife from his family.
- Birthplace – R. Saadia, Ibn Ezra, and Radak render "מוֹלַדְתִּי" as birthplace.7 However, R. Saadia and Radak add that it was understood that this was where Avraham's family was to be found.8
- This position might suggest that the test was an innovation of the servant himself, who went beyond Avraham's requirements, and wanted to ensure that in addition to having family lineage,14 the future wife would also be of good character.15 Avraham might have ignored this aspect, being more concerned with the woman's religious potential than her character.16
- Additionally, the test would serve to convince Rivka's family that the marriage was Divinely ordained.17 Since there was a good chance that the chosen woman's family would not easily acquiesce to her moving to a foreign country, it was not enough that the servant simply look for a relative of Avraham, he also needed a Divine sign that could prove to the woman's family that she was destined by God to be Yitzchak's wife. The water test accomplished this goal, highlighting how the Divine hand guided Avraham's relative, Rivka, rather than anyone else, straight to the servant.18
Aversion to Having Local In-laws
Avraham wanted to ensure that Yitzchak and his family would not be influenced by his wife's family or have to contend with their possible future claims on his inheritance.
- Constant influence – According to Keli Yekar and R. Hirsch, although both the Canaanites and their Mesopotamian counterparts might have been somewhat equally deficient morally or religiously, the negative influence of local relatives is significantly greater than from those living far away.27 Keli Yekar also draws a parallel between Avraham's admonition that Yitzchak not marry a Canaanite woman and the Torah's later prohibition in Devarim 7 of marrying Canaanite women.
- Danger to inheritance – Chizkuni and Shadal focus instead on the problems caused by local in-laws with regards to Avraham's inheritance of Canaan. Chizkuni asserts that Avraham did not want anyone to say that his inheritance was due to his marriage to the Canaanites rather than being a gift from God.28 Shadal, in contrast, suggests that being related to the Canaanites would make it very difficult to later expel or eliminate them.29
- Birthplace – Chizkuni and R. Hirsch suggest that the word "מוֹלַדְתִּי" refers to Avraham's land or city.30 R. Hirsch, though, suggests that implicit in the usage of the word is Avraham's requirement that the woman also be from his family.
- Family – Shadal asserts that "מוֹלַדְתִּי" refers to Avraham's family but that Avraham set this as a preference rather than a requirement. As proof, he points to the fact that the servant devises the water test, a very inefficient way of finding a maiden from Avraham's family specifically.31
Search for a Wife of Noble Character
The most critical factor was that Yitzchak's wife have a generous and kind nature and be of upright moral character.